How to handle embarrassing situations

Let’s be honest. We all have been in an embarrassing situation that made us want to bury our head deep in the ground like an ostrich. Such moments make even the best social, extroverted persons lose their focus and makes them waver as long as its effects are on.

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This can be avoided by following few steps and being disciplined during the down time.

Learn to appreciate the exact moment.

It is imperative that a person learns something from each and every moment of his life; whether positive or negative. You can help yourself feel better in such situation, if you can genuinely believe that you have learned or gained something positive from it.

Stop Blaming yourself

When something wrong happens, it is natural (for most) to blame ourselves for the outcome. Especially, if the embarrassmentĀ  is due to rejection. Be it when asking for favour, date or a job. Make a list of negative thoughts that you get when you undergo such feelings and try to counter-argue with it to negate it.

Stop being defensive

Defensiveness is a sign that you have lost the battle. Unless very necessary, it is best to avoid it as it breeds negative emotions. It also shows that you are being indifferent to the matter even though you might be at fault.

Remember you are not the center of the world

People often misjudge their importance in others’ eyes. They usually overestimate how much attention other people are giving them. Always remember that while you might be in the spotlight during embarrassing moments, it will not stay over you for long unless you try to call it upon yourselves. (Streisand effect )

Learn to accept NO as an answer

Most people feel embarrassed if anyone replies in negative to their requests even though most wont consider it as an embarrassing situation. Accept the fact that not everyone would agree with you.

Try to get feed back

Many times such situation arises because of mis-communications. Feedback can help you correct your mistake.

Each of the above points may or may not be applicable all the time. However, it is important that you apply your sense correctly to come out from such situations unscathed.

I was an idiot and why you should backup your site

If you are a new reader you might think this is a new blog or if you are coming here from an external link you might be irritated for not finding the expected content here.

Let me tell you that this blog was more than 4 years old with lots of content and traffic. However, due to my negligence my hosting went down and after the grace period my host provider deleted all my files.

I have got several question on Facebook regarding this and I’ll answer them all.

1) Don’t you check your site daily? You would have known instantly it went down.

A) I didn’t unfortunately for past 2 months.

2) Auto-renewal option?

A) Credit card expired and I got new card. Forgot to update account information.

3) Surely, hosting company would have sent you an e-mail?

A) Yes, they did. I had registered an alternative email id with them for notifications and forwarded the mail to my primary account. Everything, was working fine with Gmail’s multiple inbox till they released new tabs design. Missed this important mail because of it.

4) Hosts do backup your content.

A) Yes, they do have my back up, but they are charging me a lot to retrieve them.

5) What now?

Will be re-building the blog from scratch. Have taken long term hosting plan. Looking at cheap and easy backup like WordPress2dropbox plugin, etc.

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